Comments on: My Friend Nicolette is Dead http://www.virushead.net/vhrandom/2008/02/07/my-friend-nicolette-is-dead Contagious Thoughts, Mutating as Needed Sat, 13 Mar 2010 22:43:00 -0800 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Rosei http://www.virushead.net/vhrandom/2008/02/07/my-friend-nicolette-is-dead/comment-page-1#comment-76646 Rosei Sun, 10 Feb 2008 23:54:57 +0000 http://www.virushead.net/vhrandom/2008/02/07/my-friend-nicolette-is-dead/#comment-76646 So sorry for your loss, Heidi. I send some comfort from here and prays. <em>Rosei's last blog post..<a href='http://rosangelaneres.wordpress.com/2008/02/10/escolha-inconsciente-46/' rel="nofollow">Escolha Inconsciente #46</a></em> So sorry for your loss, Heidi. I send some comfort from here and prays.

Rosei’s last blog post..Escolha Inconsciente #46

]]> By: VirusHead http://www.virushead.net/vhrandom/2008/02/07/my-friend-nicolette-is-dead/comment-page-1#comment-76641 VirusHead Sun, 10 Feb 2008 18:44:14 +0000 http://www.virushead.net/vhrandom/2008/02/07/my-friend-nicolette-is-dead/#comment-76641 Thank you so very much for all these wonderful comments. Thank you. Thank you so very much for all these wonderful comments. Thank you.

]]> By: Lin http://www.virushead.net/vhrandom/2008/02/07/my-friend-nicolette-is-dead/comment-page-1#comment-76624 Lin Fri, 08 Feb 2008 20:49:52 +0000 http://www.virushead.net/vhrandom/2008/02/07/my-friend-nicolette-is-dead/#comment-76624 Heidi, Oh my gosh! I'm so sorry this has happened. Please don't riddle yourself with guilt, coulda shoulda woulda's etc. I'm sure you know that people suffering with BiPolar rate high for suicide attempts/deaths. I hope this is not what happened, but if it is perhaps she left a goodbye note somewhere for all her friends to find. Some people don't broadcast their goodbye's through emails or phone calls. My best friend's husband was BiPolar and committed suicide in May of last year, and it took several days before anyone found the note he had left. HUGS!!! <em>Lin's last blog post..<a href='http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/TellingItLikeItIs/~3/231497509/my-media-week-meme.html' rel="nofollow">My Media Week Meme</a></em> Heidi, Oh my gosh! I’m so sorry this has happened. Please don’t riddle yourself with guilt, coulda shoulda woulda’s etc.

I’m sure you know that people suffering with BiPolar rate high for suicide attempts/deaths. I hope this is not what happened, but if it is perhaps she left a goodbye note somewhere for all her friends to find. Some people don’t broadcast their goodbye’s through emails or phone calls. My best friend’s husband was BiPolar and committed suicide in May of last year, and it took several days before anyone found the note he had left.

HUGS!!!

Lin’s last blog post..My Media Week Meme

]]> By: Amanda http://www.virushead.net/vhrandom/2008/02/07/my-friend-nicolette-is-dead/comment-page-1#comment-76621 Amanda Fri, 08 Feb 2008 16:30:29 +0000 http://www.virushead.net/vhrandom/2008/02/07/my-friend-nicolette-is-dead/#comment-76621 Oh Hunny I am so sorry. I had no idea. Please call me if you want to talk. I hope you will be ok. I love you Send you hugs, Amanda P Oh Hunny I am so sorry. I had no idea. Please call me if you want to talk. I hope you will be ok. I love you Send you hugs, Amanda P

]]> By: Scooper http://www.virushead.net/vhrandom/2008/02/07/my-friend-nicolette-is-dead/comment-page-1#comment-76619 Scooper Fri, 08 Feb 2008 05:19:47 +0000 http://www.virushead.net/vhrandom/2008/02/07/my-friend-nicolette-is-dead/#comment-76619 How do you know when a friend determines to commit suicide? The determination rarely comes suddenly. It builds up over time, like a tide. And as it builds, it becomes more secret. The answer is that you don't know. The friend makes sure you don't know. Whatever signals she may have been sending before she was serious about suicide stop being sent. So if you are clairvoyant enough to pick up on signals before they really mean anything, you might have a chance at making a difference. But then, interventions before the desire becomes serious are themselves rarely serious. And who acts on a hunch, when you know she's not serious, not yet. But long before the time arrives, the signals have stopped coming. The friend lulls you into thinking that all is well, or at least stable, for now. The friend has an almost magical way of going below your threshold of detection. That's when you get the news that she's gone. I've been there, too. Let it be. <em>Scooper's last blog post..<a href='http://dogchurch.blogspot.com/2008/02/feminist-follies.html' rel="nofollow">Feminist Follies</a></em> How do you know when a friend determines to commit suicide? The determination rarely comes suddenly. It builds up over time, like a tide. And as it builds, it becomes more secret. The answer is that you don’t know. The friend makes sure you don’t know. Whatever signals she may have been sending before she was serious about suicide stop being sent. So if you are clairvoyant enough to pick up on signals before they really mean anything, you might have a chance at making a difference. But then, interventions before the desire becomes serious are themselves rarely serious. And who acts on a hunch, when you know she’s not serious, not yet. But long before the time arrives, the signals have stopped coming. The friend lulls you into thinking that all is well, or at least stable, for now. The friend has an almost magical way of going below your threshold of detection. That’s when you get the news that she’s gone.

I’ve been there, too. Let it be.

Scooper’s last blog post..Feminist Follies

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