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Reproductive Regression

Reproductive Regression

Here’s where we go with right-wing policies on reproductive rights.

We’re already seeing results ….

Jen (not her real name) is administrator of a women’s health clinic in the South that provides abortions. She has noted with alarm the recent rise in illegal abortion in her community. For some of the women she sees—after their initial attempts at abortion fail—whether Roe v. Wade is technically still the law of the land is beside the point. The combination of the procedure’s cost, the numerous regulations that her state imposes and the stigma surrounding abortion is leading a growing number of women to choose self-abortion or an untrained practitioner over legal abortion.

Our local hospital tells me they see 12-20 patients per year, who have already self-induced or had illegal abortions. Some make it, some don’t. They are underage or poor women mostly, and a few daughters of pro-life families…

So – you want to reduce abortions? Allow sex education, family planning, and birth control. If you are against those things, then it doesn’t seem to me that abortion is really the issue.

… the very policies that could reduce unwanted pregnancies—and thus abortions, legal and otherwise—are resisted at every turn by right-wing extremists and their allies in the Bush White House. Funds for family planning services are cut back while millions of dollars of federal funding are spent on “abstinence only” sex education. Emergency Contraception (EC), a higher-than-normal dose of regular birth control pills that can prevent a pregnancy if taken within 72 hours of unprotected sex, sexual assault or birth control failure, is denied over-the-counter status by the FDA, even though the agency’s own panel of experts voted overwhelmingly to make EC available without a prescription. Researchers estimate that EC prevented some 51,000 abortions in 2000—the last year for which such data is available—and OTC status would make this option far more accessible.

The latest front in the abortion war is the pharmacy. There are increasing incidents of anti-abortion pharmacists who are refusing to dispense both EC and regular birth control pills.

It’s about controlling women. Do you really think so little of women’s own decision-making ability? No-one makes that kind of decision lightly – it is fraught with ethical dilemnas and every situation is different.

There are some who deeply regret having terminated a pregnancy. There are those who carry heavy costs for not doing so. Each story is different, and when you hear the stories you really come to understand that there are too many different kinds of situations to impose rules. These are rights of privacy and even for freedom of religion.

This kind of decision is to be made by a woman. She needs to look at the reality of her situation, consult with her doctor, examine her religious beliefs, and -if she is one of the fortunate ones- talk at length about the issues with her sexual partner. Ideally, personal, religious, and medical views should all be taken into her consideration.

Fundamentally, no-one else has the right to impose their decision on a woman’s life and body. No-one should be forced to carry any more than they should be forced to abort. It’s not anyone’s decision but hers.

No-one is happy about ending a pregnancy. I have never voluntarily terminated a pregnancy, but I’ve also never been in the position to have had to consider doing so. I have lost two pregnancies, the first one of which nearly killed me. I deeply mourned their loss. And it is partly for that very reason that I support a woman’s right to plan for her reproductive life.

Want to reduce abortions? Address the reasons that women have abortions. Make sure they know how to make decisions about their sexual lives, reduce the psychopathology of domination and rape, reduce poverty, increase education. These are all things that the right _opposes_. So while you’re being manipulated for your votes, realize that you are also selling out the future of your daughters. Under these polities, their lives will be worse. I think that’s a much more insidious form of abortion.

(Tip of the hat to Ann at Is America Burning – welcome to my blogroll!)

Take Action – Women’s Call for Peace

Take Action – Women’s Call for Peace

Women’s Call for Peace: An Urgent Appeal from CodePink

Take Action – Sign the Call

(Note: Men in solidarity with “Women Say No to War” are invited to join us.)

We, the women of the United States, Iraq and women worldwide, have had enough of the senseless war in Iraq and the cruel attacks on civilians around the world. We’ve buried too many of our loved ones. We’ve seen too many lives crippled forever by physical and mental wounds. We’ve watched in horror as our precious resources are poured into war while our families’ basic needs of food, shelter, education and healthcare go unmet. We’ve had enough of living in constant fear of violence and seeing the growing cancer of hatred and intolerance seep into our homes and communities.

This is not the world we want for ourselves or our children. With fire in our bellies and love in our hearts, we women are rising up – across borders – to unite and demand an end to the bloodshed and the destruction.

We have seen how the foreign occupation of Iraq has fueled an armed movement against it, perpetuating an endless cycle of violence. We are convinced that it is time to shift from a military model to a conflict-resolution model that includes the following elements:

– The withdrawal of all foreign troops and foreign fighters from Iraq;
– Negotiations to reincorporate disenfranchised Iraqis into all aspects of Iraqi society;
– The full representation of women in the peacemaking process and a commitment to women’s full equality in the post-war Iraq;
– A commitment to discard plans for any foreign bases in Iraq;
– Iraqi control of its oil and other resources;
– The nullification of privatization and deregulation laws imposed under occupation, allowing Iraqis to shape the trajectory of the post-war economy;
– A massive reconstruction effort that prioritizes Iraqi contractors, and draws upon financial resources of the countries responsible for the invasion and occupation of Iraq;
– Consideration of a temporary international peacekeeping force that is truly multilateral and is not composed of any troops from countries that participated in the occupation.

To move this peace process forward, we are creating a massive movement of women – crossing generations, races, ethnicities, religions, borders and political persuasions. Together, we will pressure our governments, the United Nations, the Arab League, Nobel Peace Prize winners, religious leaders and others in the international community to step forward to help negotiate a political settlement. And in this era of divisive fundamentalisms, we call upon world leaders to join us in spreading the fundamental values of love for the human family and for our precious planet.

Dr. Unheimlich

Dr. Unheimlich

With this generator, you get credit for the disease generated from your name.

Doctor Unheimlich has diagnosed me with
VirusHeadosis
Cause: a significant alignment of the stars
Symptoms: chapped lips, frequent hydrophobia, mild seizures
Cure: take a day off work
Enter your name, for your own diagnosis:

Note: Not the Heimlich Maneuver, but Unheimlich (uncanny). A bit of a pun on both.

The Uncanny reminds me of Freud and Beckett. I have been thinking about the uncanny again just recently – the familiar which has become strange, the un-homey, the alien-ated.

That train of thought also leads me to James Hillman, a very interesting and very original archtypal psychologist. I’m about in the right place to read some more Hillman – it’s been a while. I didn’t even know that he had this book on war out.


A Terrible Love of War Re-Visioning Psychology The Soul's Code : In Search of Character and Calling

Oh, and does anyone have any good ideas for homemade/inexpensive gifts? I have very little money this year and a few extra people that I would really like to give some sort of gift. I’ve slogged around a few stores, but haven’t really seen much. Suggestions? I’m not really much of a Martha Stewart. I’ve given candles and latte whips and custom cds with christmas music and decorated notebooks and signature graphics and I’m about out of ideas. If I had more money to spend on each person, I could get each one something they would really like – but I don’t. I know there are some clever people out there – help me out here! What do people do – I don’t really have that much christmas history to draw on. I only started celebrating it as an adult.

Meme, Me, Me

Meme, Me, Me

Here’s a new viral meme. I’m a little late on this one… but thanks, Etherealgirl! Here are my answers, and anyone can pick it up from here, not just the people I name at the bottom.

Here are The Rules:

Remove the blog at #1 from the following list and bump every one up one place. Add your blogs name in the #5 spot. Link to each of the other blogs for the desired cross-pollination effect.

  1. It’s Morning Somewhere
  2. The Gypsy’s Caravan
  3. The Fat Lady Sings
  4. An etherealgirl’s Adventures in Cyberland
  5. VirusHead

Select 4 new friends to add to the pollen count. No one is obligated to participate and anyone can play if they want to. This is not like ‘Tag, you’re it’, or some kind of chain letter. Just do it if it seems like fun. The questions and answers are supposed to be part of the fun, but only if it feels comfortable.

Here comes The MEME:

What were you doing 10 years ago?

I was defending my Ph.D. proposal for a dissertation on viruses in contemporary fiction. At the time, I thought that the major argument would involve an alternate theology of evil. It didn’t work out quite that way. When I read more of the fiction (HIV/AIDS narratives, vampire fictions, science fiction and fantasy, thrillers, etc.) and let the work speak for itself, I found that there were more interesting things going on with the viral than a simple placeholder for “otherness.”

What were you doing 5 years ago?

I was learning how to become a mom. My son was about 6 months old. I also began writing poetry.

What were you doing 1 year ago?

I was still celebrating the completion of the Ph.D. and had not yet moved into full panic mode about the multiplying student loan debt.

What were you doing yesterday?

Rewriting my curriculum vitae, and crafting an application letter for a tenure-track teaching position. Some project priorities at my part-time consulting job. Designing a website for a local rug-cleaning company. Laundry. Dishes. Helping with homework on the letter “c”. A little reading.

Five snacks you enjoy

  1. Sesame seeds
  2. Grilled cheese sandwich
  3. Sun chips
  4. Strawberry twizzlers
  5. Chocolate malted Ovaltine (That’s really a drink, but I treat it as a snack)

Five songs I know all the words to:

  1. God – Tori Amos
  2. Holiday – Green Day
  3. Moving – Kate Bush
  4. Take Me as I Am – Mary Fahl
  5. Turn Back, O Man – Godspell

Five things you would do if you had a million dollars:

  1. Pay off my student loans, mortgage, all debt.
  2. Buy some clothes, a car.
  3. Help out some family.
  4. Go to Europe.
  5. Save for rainy day.

But of course, I’d probably need more than a million for all that.

Five things you like doing:

  1. Reading
  2. Singing
  3. Writing
  4. Snuggling
  5. Sleeping

Five bad habits:

  1. Smoking
  2. Drinking too much coffee
  3. Haphazard housecleaning
  4. Driving when I could walk
  5. Staying up late reading

Five things I would never wear again:

  1. Christie Brinkley swimsuit that turned out to be transparent when wet.
  2. Sheer yellow silk shirt that spots immediately on contact with any water.
  3. Those blister-causing, ankle twisting, pain inducing high-heel platform boots.
  4. Solid purple bell-bottom hip-hugger suit.
  5. Tube tops.

Five favorite toys:

  1. Computer
  2. Worry beads
  3. Pointer
  4. CD/MPG Player -wish I had an iPod mini
  5. Chessboard

I am now passing the MEME baton to:

  1. Blog of the Grateful Bear
  2. Postcards from Hell’s Kitchen
  3. The Raven’s Retreat
  4. heather anne dot org

Anyone can play!

Beauty from Skin of Executed Prisoners

Beauty from Skin of Executed Prisoners

A Chinese cosmetics company is using skin harvested from the corpses of executed convicts to develop collagen for beauty products to sell in Europe. It’s traditional – but I’m sorry, it’s too much ick for me. Maybe time to hold up on scheduling that swollen lip look, ladies.

I began to wonder where US collagen comes from? A brief look says “bovine dermal” – cowskin? – as well as human. Ok, do they test for mad cow? Where do they get the human? Is someone donating skin? Is collagen used only for injections and other medical applications? It seems to me I’ve seen it as an ingredient in skin cream and even shampoo. I don’t think I really want to smear smooshed dermal layers of anything else on me. Correct me if my initial impression is mistaken.

I’ll also skip the tortured St. Bernard entree or, for that matter, veal (when I was a kid, I wondered where all the veals lived). I’m even going to have to re-evaluate yummy duck and goose foie gras.

I’m not a vegetarian, but I agree with most of the arguments. Once I tried cutting out all meat, but then I had dreams of veggies screaming. Now I simply recognize and am thankful for the sacrifices that uphold my continued existence, and I try not to be greedy. I’m not entirely comfortable with it, but in my selfishness I do love ribs and steak. I’m thinking that maybe I should eat them now, while we still can.

Have you ever stopped to ask yourself where certain things come from? As a former Jehovah’s Witness, I was still a bit leery of the blood transfusion that helped to save my life a few years ago, but I had taken a Rhogam shot to counteract an RH incompatibility without thinking about it. My mom, the former nurse, had to tell me that actually Rhogam is a human blood product too. Of course. It just never occurred to me. How about insulin? Is that a human product and if so, where do they get it? I have no idea.

My husband’s insurance company told him that they wouldn’t pay for emergency blood, but the hospital sure charged for it. When I was pregnant, a now-defunct company tried to get me to store the cord for stem cells. When I said no, the hospital just took it away. I would have been more comfortable if they’d given it to me, along with the placenta. It’s mine. Was it sold, and if so, who made a profit on the primal connector between me and my son?

I am sure that there are bioethicists considering these and other related questions. I’ve been thinking about these kinds of topics since we saw The Constant Gardener the other night. Guess I’ll add another topic to my reading list.

Ben-isms

Ben-isms

“The tooth fairy must have really liked that tooth.”

“The only states I know are Georgia, Florida, Texas, Mexico and Japan.”

“When I’m a man, and you and Daddy are still alive, would you give me some money?”